Lana Grant, Singer/Songwriter

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Practicing Happy!

The Happiness Project

I have been reading this book called “The Happiness Project”, by Gretchen Rubin...

I had to laugh when people spotted me reading this, as many of their comments were...”MY GOD…do YOU really need more happiness”! Though I chuckled and would agree that my life is very blessed and I do apply it with an attitude that lends itself to a greater infusion of “happy”, I believe happiness is not something to be taken for granted.
Like all things in life, there needs to be some effort put forth for growth and achievement….and being happy is no exception. For example, we often tend to take the most important people in our life for granted while we fling ourselves about tackling all the other things we’ve assigned importance to. That assigned order can actually lead to a less satisfying life, despite accomplishments you may make.
One thing I’m learning from this book is, that when you do something to make others or yourself happy recognize it’s just for you, that way there is no sense of disappointment when reactions may not mirror your efforts, which really could spoil the whole action. Just savour the good feelings brought about by the deed. In a reward based society, that can be a much more difficult lesson to embrace, but that is why we all need practice…it’s not just a given.
The premise of the book appealed to me because the writer also had all the positive content in her life to already be considered a fortunate and happy person, but just wanted to work on paying attention to things/people in life more to augment and appreciate the happiness that was already present within her existence.
I think truly happy people also have moments where they have to stop and reflect on other emotions present in their life and give them appropriate space, like sadness and frustration…it’s just when you are armed with a more peaceful, loving and happy heart, I feel you are better able to work through all these emotions more reasonably…less reactive and more from a calm inner placement. Plus the bad times often re-affirm appreciation of the happy moments.
Also, being happy doesn’t always have to expose an external showing of exuberance…sometimes some of my happiest moments have been embedded in quiet reflections of my blessings or personal accomplishments...and then there are the times when you just have so much in you it’s busting out and it can’t be contained. I love both of those forms of expressions for totally different reasons.

So maybe you’re reading this and saying yeah right…I wish!!

Well, maybe instead of wishing - practice happy! Maybe switch a negative perspective to a positive and see how quickly your basic life attitude can shift. For example, an easy one I do a lot is instead of vocalizing what you don’t want to happen, like “I hope it doesn’t rain”, I say instead “I hope it’s sunny today”. I also make a point of paying attention to people and acknowledging actions with a variety of, “thank you”, “please” and “you’re welcome”. Seeing someone else smile from being appreciated is awesome.
So hug & kiss your spouse with enthusiasm, make time for your kids, go out and enjoy fun times with your friends, keep in touch with your family…and do independent things that bring YOU joy!

Life is seldom the cause of disappointment…it’s your response to it.

Til next time…as Bob Marley would sing, “Don’t Worry, Be Happy”! (Link to the above mentioned song)

What people are saying?

on February 21st, 2012, Lana said...

P.S. If anyone has another enlightening non-fiction book to recommend, please fill me in, as I’m always looking for my next great read!!

on February 21st, 2012, Susan said...

Hi Lana,

I just finished reading “The Element” by Ken Robinson, a book filled with anecdotes about people finding their passion.  Very interesting and insightful.  Also, I am recommending “Unbroken” by Laura Hillenbrand, to everyone.  It is an amazing story of survival; it is well written and will stay with you for a long, long time. 

Cheers, Susan

on February 23rd, 2012, Lana said...

Thanks!!  I will look for both of those books…I find there are so many out there nowadays it’s really helpful to get input on the good ones! I love the ones that give you a takeaway from it…something to ponder, inspire or at the very least making you grateful for your place in life. I find a little perspective rather mentally healthy smile

on May 07th, 2012, christin said...

I cant believe something like this exists on the internet! Its so true, so honest, and more than that you dont sound like an idiot!

on December 02nd, 2012, Asorada said...

you have a wonderful blog here!

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